Why is it ‘okay’ for girls to wear male clothes but ‘wrong’ for guys to wear girl’s clothes?

Girls are allowed to wear guy’s shirts, jeans, undies, tshirts, etc. And then they still primp and apply beautiful makeup while enjoying wearing male clothes. I adore primping and wearing pretty makeup while wearing girls clothes – low-rise jeans, blouse, wedge flip-flops, satin-n-lace thongs, perfume. Honestly, I can look very pretty and fem as a boy who looks like a girl rather than the opposite. Why is this ‘frowned’ on? Are there girls and ladies who are comfy with a guy who can and enjoys being feminine and pretty? Yes, I do enjoy being totally smooth, totally fem, – pedicures are the best – and being out and about as a girl.

I hear that a lot- that women get to essentially cross-dress, but men cannot, that a drag queen is much more controversial than a drag king. I disagree; put a woman in a full suit or tuxedo- and not a feminized version- with slicked back, pinned-up, or short hair, and no makeup, and most people will react with shock.

The difference is that woman’s clothing has moved so much further to the center, to being more unisex. What is male clothes? Pants? One day it was, now everyone wears them. T-shirts and jeans have become the norm for both sexes, despite often having design differences (i.e. hip-huggers, etc. for women). However, men’s clothing choices remains stubbornly at the edges, never moving to the center; the only time a man can wear a skirt is pretty much if it is a kilt and he is Scottish. So it’s not so much that girls can wear ‘male clothes’ and men can’t wear ‘girl’s clothes’, but that the clothing girls wear nowadays aren’t really male, but more unisex, while woman’s clothing remains a secret bastion of theirs, unable for men to access.

Also, there is, sadly, the gay factor- many people can still not separate homosexuality from cross-dressing or even just non-steroetypical gender expression. There is so much fear of male homosexuality that boys are kept strongly within their gender roles- strong, tough, manly. Boys who act like ‘sissies’ are accused of being gay even though they may not be. Therefore, for a man to like these ‘girly’ things- being smooth, feminine, smelling nice, primping, wearing makeup- they are seen as either an indication of your being gay, which makes certain homophobes uncomfortable, or they are seen as indication of your messing with gender roles, which makes a lot of close-minded people uncomfortable. A lot of factors, including the women’s movement and women’s fashion towards unisex, have allowed for girls to be more tomboyish without being accused of being lesbians or wanting to be men. It’s unfair, but there it is. You also mention that these girls in ‘men’s clothes’ still primp and wear makeup- which might be why they are more accepted- they are little princesses playing dress-up, in everyone’s eyes. A man who wears the clothing but doesn’t retain much stereotypical masculinity (by wearing perfume and makeup, acting feminine and pretty) isn’t seen as having the same goals, you see.

Personally, I LOVE boys like that! I wish there were more around, so I could find myself one. I’d probably be the butcher of the relationship, and it’d be fine with me! But honestly, don’t worry, there are girls who like that, although a lot will (sadly) dismiss you as gay. Take heart, though. Cheers!

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